Levels of dating relationships
If you feel that you are not initially attracted to a man who initiates with you, OK — but at least ask yourself why that is.
Are you considering biblical characteristics in that decision?
Remember, your intent at this point is not necessarily marriage — and that’s not what either of you are committing to at this stage.
You’re simply committing to get to know her a little better in an intentional way to evaluate whether the two of you should then consider marriage to one another.
Ladies, as uncomfortable as this may sound for the guys, you might be in a difficult position here as well, depending on how well you know the man initiating with you. Then I’d ask, have you had any chance at all to see him in group settings, or do you know him by reputation?
If you don’t have even information at that level, feel free to tell him that you want some time to think and pray about it (that is, if you’re not sure at that point that you’re not interested).
Then — in addition to actually thinking and praying about it — ask one of your pastors or elders whether he knows him and what he thinks.
Note the phrase “practical suggestions.” These are not sacrosanct biblical principles.
This is not the only way the early part of a relationship might look.
These are simply suggested applications of biblical principles.
The first thing that should happen if it has not happened during the initiation of the relationship is that intentions should be established.
Whatever that conversation looks like, intentions should be clear and it should be the man making them so.