It is important to note here that an attitude of compromise is going to go a long way towards getting peace, you shouldn't expect to get everything you want but neither should they.
It is quite probable that your NFH has, for various reasons, not fully matured and not developed a compleat adult skill set.
What this technique does, is allow you to ‘frame’ the other person in a different light.
It helps you to see them as a person,who was once small and powerless just like you. We often get caught up in the hype surrounding a person – they’re the CEO of a huge corporation, they’re a celebrity..whatever it is, it can lead us to thoughts that don’t assist us.
As a Psychologist, I find it easy to look beyond the behaviour to the underlying reasons. Having said that, understanding the reasons doesn’t automatically make me like someone! When we come across an angry and unhappy person, many of us take this behaviour personally. I remember when I worked at Broadmoor Hospital, we would have supervision to help us cope with the various personalities we had to deal with.
So try to relax and not become obsessed with the situation there are steps you can take to deal with the situation and as the NFH in Britain site reminds you constantly YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
There are numerous psychological tricks for dealing with intimidating people and I’m going to outline the most important ones below.
Welcome to au - If you have a Neighbour From Hell (NFH) and you want to know what you can do to regain some sanity and peace in your life this website offers suggestions and links on how to manage your problem and how to avoid making things worse than they already are.
au was created in 2011 as the result of a long running NFH problem we had/have which has lead us to becoming all too familiar with what to do (and what not to do) when dealing with a provocative, unco-operative, angry neighbour.
Whatever the case when it comes to the Neighbour From Hell it usually doesn’t take much and suddenly you find yourself the victim of bullying, harassment, intimidation, loud noise, and general antisocial behaviour visited upon you by an irrational and unreasonable neighbour.