Dating non christian okay
Dating with a trajectory towards marriage doesn’t mean you only date one person ever. So, if you choose not to get coffee or watch a movie with the opposite sex, then whatever. The ultimate purpose of marriage is sanctification (becoming like God). It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating. Devoted follower of Christ, college/young adult minister, husband to @tiffanipowell, dad to Noah and Micah, avid blogger/writer, sports fan.
That would be awesome, but it’s not always realistic. So, my question is, “How does dating a non-Christian aid you in this? If you believe God is preparing you for foreign missions, is it important the person you marry shares this passion? If you love the Cowboys and your future spouse loves the Packers, is it important to work through this before marriage? I believe these principles could change lives and alter eternities. You can follow him on twitter and read more of his blogs here!
There is another dangerous mentality in Christian circles I want to address…”flirting to convert.” Look…Christians are called to be missionaries.
The dating world, however, is not the place to be a missionary.
You see certain “role models” jumping from one dating relationship to another.
Yet God has more in store for you than just jumping from one relationship to another.
We need to realize that God means for us to meet the ONE person that we are meant to marry.
You see the magazines, TV shows, and movies that tell you how you’re young, and you should date a lot of people before you get married.
And discovering one flaw means it’s time to move on. The first instance in the Bible where God is not pleased comes when God sees Adam living in the Garden of Eden alone (Gen. There must be a secret bylaw passed down from the early church fathers, but once you reach the age of 25 you will be asked the question almost weekly…”When are you getting married?
But the beauty of marriage is God sustains you despite your flaws. ” Can you imagine how constantly hearing this question from friends, family, and unsuspecting old ladies at church can make some people believe they have a problem? When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship. Your friends are able to see inconsistencies and problems you can’t because they are outside the storm.
Here are 10 really important principles for Christian dating. That would make God a gambler, and the Bible clearly says gambling is from the devil (only joking). Look, marriage isn’t as much about finding someone totally compatible as it is about committing to someone despites difficulties and differences. If you aren’t ready for marriage, or if you do not want to get married, you are not sinning.
“The one” says you need to find the perfect person. Enter Eve, pro-creation, and marriage (not necessarily in that order). And the most intimate community on earth is the relationship you will have with your spouse. I am fearful the Christian community has irresponsibly coerced men and women into marriage through cultural pressure.
It means dating someone who meets the values and goals you have for a future spouse (more on that later). When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target. I heard don’t have sex before marriage so much I actually believed getting to marriage a virgin was the only important thing. In the process, I filled my heart and mind with lust, and I secretly struggled with pornography. What the church needs to teach is the importance of a pure mind. Co-dependent dating leads to co-dependent marriages. And co-dependent marriages will eventually crumble because the weight placed on them is too heavy. In fact, every principle discussed in this article is null and void without God at the center.