Dating advice for germans and americans updating tile wallboard
As it happens learning different cultures and norms is highly fascinating to me, so just sharing a bit of my own cultural assumptions. It's not that Germans don't "do dates", it's that the whole dating ritual is a uniquely American idea.In other countries, people who get along spend time together, and if chemistry happens, chemistry happens.Now, when I discuss the differences between European and American, I’m referring to a mindset. American men on the other hand, tend to be goal oriented, with the aim of getting laid.
Please enlighten this poor ignorant American (plus introverted. Edit: I'm not replying here to be defensive...Here in Germany, it's not about the boy trying to impress the girl until she falls for him: it's about two people on more-or-less equal terms trying to make chemistry happen without being creepy.If you think he's made a move but then nothing much happens, he may be waiting for you to make the next move -- he needs to know you're as interested in him and he is in you.Then these boys grow up and are exposed to the opposite sex in an abrupt, often sexualized way. This is definitely seen in how they treat not only women, but everyone around them.The consequence of this is a lack of understanding of women, a lack of comfort and often, a lack of respect. There is a courtesy, consideration, chivalry and thoughtfulness in how they act, behave and engage with others.
Sure, they will go out for dinner and do fun activities, but it’s not packaged up in a formal and contrived manner. It’s more organic and instead of defining the relationship in order to know how to act, they let the relationship unfold and the label of boyfriend/girlfriend just naturally develops in the process. European men are comfortable with women, which leads to respect for women.