Cancer survivors and dating
I think people are attracted to my survivor story because it gives me confidence.Before being intimate with someone, I’ll show him my breasts in a nonsexual way.After years of trying to control my looks, surrendering has been healing.It was the new me, the survivor, who created a profile on Coffee Meets Bagel last spring. I didn’t talk about cancer in my profile, but I posted a picture of myself with a mohawk, taken at the head-shaving party I threw before chemo.' I’ve found that guys ask really smart, sensitive questions.
In two insane years I’ve had a double mastectomy; harvested my eggs; been through chemo and tamoxifen and in and out of depression and menopause; had my hair fall out and grow back; and had reconstruction that resulted in perfect, hard breasts with no nipples and amazing side boob. My body doesn’t function the way it did, but I’m more patient with it.I’m happy with my body, and the next guy will like it if you don’t.' That’s really how I feel."Kristina Schermer, 28, an investor relations associate (also a Model of Courage) living in Denver; diagnosed two years ago"I know digital dating is the new normal.But it’s not the way I dreamed of meeting somebody, not the ideal way. In my early twenties I was bulimic, emotionally fragile, and too proud to put myself out there on a dating site. I was diagnosed at 26, after testing positive for BRCA2, one of the breast cancer genes.Finding my partner is important, but I’ve been busy working and getting my doctorate.Now that I’ve finished, dating will take a higher priority.
I admit there was a time, after I learned my cancer was gone, when I actually wished it would come back. And the day I did, at 27, I vowed, This is going to be a positive in my life.