Avoid dating damaged destructive women
The key is – does she realize it’s an area of weakness that she desires for God to change? Yet the pain or mistakes of the past should hold no control over our present and future. The Deceiver, Liar - Every marriage must be built on trust.
Humility, compassion, love, and respect are much more admirable characteristics than simply the externals. The Gold Digger/Big Spender - Secretive spending habits?
More interested in your bank account or what you can buy her, than in you?
Once married, these patterns can worsen when the stressors of family life and responsibilities mount high.
We all need the grace and freedom that only Christ Himself can offer. And we can trust He will give guidance, and help us see some red flags to be aware of along the way. The Unbeliever – Be careful not to settle for less than what God would want for the spiritual health and care of your marriage.
But our marriages are healthier when we recognize red flags in our dating relationships, instead of choosing not to see problems at all. Marriage can be tough enough at times, add to that the pressure of opposing spiritual views, and you may be in big trouble when the normal stressors of life occur. The Abuser – Many times “abusers” are assumed to be men, but women struggle with this same trap too, and the man in her life may feel like it’s difficult to talk about the problem or find help. Marriage must be built on deep love and respect, and abuse of any type has no place there. The Controller, Manipulator – This person’s subtle, dangerous behavior can indicate big trouble ahead.
Take time to see how she responds in different scenarios, especially when under pressure.