When I typed out these words as an idea for an article on abstinence, I realized this was a difficult topic to get people talking about.When I asked my peers to share their stories, few were virgins with no sexual history, and even fewer wanted to talk about it. Recounting my own sin made me feel like the chief of hypocrites.“On a few occasions, we were together and I felt temptation, I would run out of the room, and once, I ran out of the apartment,” he says.Obviously, much of abstinence is about each person having self-control.Truth is, even in marriage, you have to rein in your sexual desire and allow it to be fulfilled with your spouse in a loving consensual encounter.Part of dating and learning to bring your sexual desire under submission is simply training ground for marriage.” Managing sexual desires begins with realizing that we can’t do it on our own.
For couples who have slept together or have other regrets, it’s important to know that you can always put your relationship on the right path.“It is best that you and your date do a lot of outside activities so you can remain focused on each other and not sex,” he says. Don’t add more temptation by always being alone.” Jason Peaks agrees that a relationship out in the open helped him and Danielle stay pure.“We tried to not be in a house together alone,” he says. No laying or lounging on couches or beds.” When temptation arose, Jason says he showed leadership by taking 2 Timothy literally.You need a game plan: a set of ideas, attitudes and actions that will help you glorify God and safeguard your relationship from premarital sex. Genesis tells us that He made humans both male and female in His own image.He blessed them, and one of the first commands He gave them was to “be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis -28).
We must learn how to say “no” to our sexual desires even if it’s unpopular and difficult. Jessica Mc Cleese of the Krist Samaritan Center in Houston, Texas.